Recipe to spoil a good relationship . Avoid !

After having a conversation on the possible mistakes people make in a relationship to spoil it, insecurity tops the list. This is followed by jealousy & suspicion. While growing up, we were told that we see the world the way we are within. Interestingly, both these thoughts greatly apply to a relationship when it comes to spoil the same.

Often in a relationship, people compare themselves. They get absorbed in the thought whether they are good enough for the person they are in relationship with instead of enjoying the same. People often tend to judge their relationship only the way they see it, they never try to look at it from the other person's perspective. That's where the miss is. If you can't understand what the other person expects from you, it will be difficult for you to be comfortable in your relationship. Once you know the same and you know you are meeting most of them, if not all, then you already know that you are good in the relationship. Being insecure, brings unwanted thoughts in your mind, which one should avoid. Any questions raised during the period needs to be discussed openly and resolved instead of just letting it build inside the mind. That's why having a transparent relationship helps, wherein you can ask anything and everything to the person you are in relationship with.

The rabbit closes it's eyes and think that the world can't see it since it can't see the world. Humans in their mindset are typically similar wherein they think that the world behaves or will behave the way they do. When they make mistake they have many reasons to justify the same, while they won't listen to any reason if the same mistake is committed by the person they are in relationship with. That's hypocritical. People are humane, they are prone to make mistakes. They key is, how they handle the mistake, if they regret or ignore due to their ego. So don't judge or make assumptions about people based on the way you think, do it based on what you know about that person, that would help to better understand the person.

The right approach... Live your life in a focused & truthful ways. Don't commit to a person unless you are sure that you can stand up to protecting the commitment. In an uncommitted world, lot can happen & lot can change. However, once you commit, stand by your word and believe in the relationship you are in. Remember the old saying - As you grow, so you reap. So the more you work positively and truthfully for a relationship, the more you get in return. This is life's truth.